Tell or Not?

I'm CONFUSED!

If you find out that something bads going to happen to a friend, something that they may or may not want to know is going to happen to them, should you tell them??? I mean honestly, if you find out something, that's going to happen to a friend, would you tell them??? I think it's times like that that you're supposed to put yourself in the other persons shoes (metaphorically!) and ask yourself, if you were that person, would you want to know before it happened? Or would you want to wait, and just let it come by, and not start the grieving process before it happens.

The thing about it is, that it's never the same answer ALL the time, it always changes depending on whether something can be done about it or not. And sometimes, even if something can be done, sometimes people just don't want to know. They just want the thing (the problem) to come by on it's own time, and let him/herself deal with it, AFTER it's happened.

That's one of the reasons lifes so confusing; YOU CAN'T READ MINDS!